Why do men come to counselling?

Often men who contact me haven’t spoken to anyone about what’s going on before. You might be used to dealing with things on your own, or unsure what therapy is supposed to be like. You don’t have to have everything figured out or know exactly where to start.

Men bring many different things to counselling including:

Relationships difficulties

When it comes to feelings and intimacy, as men we often feel challenged and find connection elusive. Hence relationships at work, with our partners, with our children or parents can be a struggle. Perhaps some of what we learnt from our fathers is not serving us well.

Having no place to talk to another men

Talking to our partners may be possible, but they have their own perspective and desires. These may clash with ours. Talking to male friends about more serious things, how we really feel, when there is a light and jokey relationship can be scary. Will we be judged?

I also facilitate groups where men share their experiences, build connection, and recognise that they are not alone. You can find out more about these here.

Many men start counselling wanting to “fix” a problem or stop feeling a certain way. Often, they leave with a stronger, steadier relationship with themselves and the people around them.

For men considering counselling